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Showing posts from August, 2016

Swim In The Backlash

"She's looking for attention" "Stop playing victim" "Next time keep your mouth shut!" "Stop being negative be happy" "What did you say or do to him?" There comes a point in life where privacy can be enabling to the abuser. An abuser thrives in the silence of their victim. Speaking up and sharing your story regarding domestic violence can be challenging. You have to be able to swim in the backlash because it comes along with it. Not everyone will express empathy or agree that you are doing the right thing. At times the statements above are made. My advice to anyone that plans on sharing their experience with a confidant or with the world is to stay true to yourself and be as vocal & honest as you can be. You'd be surprise how your experience can help others as well as yourself. There are so many lives you can touch and people that have faced similar experiences. As a survivor you have already made it over th

Reveal What You Feel

In the video for "Don't hurt Yourself" from the visual album Lemonade by Beyonce was an introduction of a poem before the music played that expressed an emotion of Anger. I believe it is important to reveal what you feel. I shared "Anger" below. This is an emotion some are afraid to express with the fear of it coming across negative. There are many ways of expressing anger the positive part is when expressing anger it can be both helpful and healing.  Anger If it's what you truly want ... I can wear her skin over mine. Her hair over mine. Her hands as gloves. Her teeth as confetti. Her scalp, a cap. Her sternum, my bedazzled cane. We can pose for a photograph, all three of us. Immortalized ... you and your perfect girl. I don't know when love became elusive. What I know is, no one I know has it. My father's arms around my mother's neck, fruit too ripe to eat. I think of lovers as trees ... growing to and from one another. Searchin