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Swim In The Backlash

"She's looking for attention"
"Stop playing victim"
"Next time keep your mouth shut!"
"Stop being negative be happy"
"What did you say or do to him?"

There comes a point in life where privacy can be enabling to the abuser. An abuser thrives in the silence of their victim. Speaking up and sharing your story regarding domestic violence can be challenging. You have to be able to swim in the backlash because it comes along with it. Not everyone will express empathy or agree that you are doing the right thing. At times the statements above are made. My advice to anyone that plans on sharing their experience with a confidant or with the world is to stay true to yourself and be as vocal & honest as you can be. You'd be surprise how your experience can help others as well as yourself. There are so many lives you can touch and people that have faced similar experiences. As a survivor you have already made it over the hump there's something to live for. You cannot change the way people think or shift their perspective. Simply let it be. Keep in mind they're entitled to their point of view and opinion. The best way to deal with that is to not make that part your business. No one could ever tell my story better than me! No one can tell your story better than you! Some people don't read to understand they read to comment. Focusing on the reaction and not the cause of the problem. My advice is never to interrupt a genius because they know everything. Swim in the backlash because the only way is to go forward. Surviving the abuse you have already taken a step towards rebuilding your life. "Understand, accept and recover"


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